what do you mean you host it on your own server? do you mean that you have the actual machine sitting there beside you or that you have a VPN or a self maintained dedicated server? or, do you mean that you have a hosting account with a hosting company ?
the type of server settings I am talking about require access to the base level of the actual machine/software for the server.
anyway, use your ftp, go to the public_html directory, if you do not have a .htaccess file there, then put one there.
in that htaccess file copy and paste this line:
DirectoryIndex index.php index.html index.htm
copy and paste it because it has to be exactly like that.
save the file, upload it back to the server.
then, when you go to yoursite.com it will actually direct to yoursite.com/index.php
the reason for the other index files is in case you don't have a index.php but you do have a index.html it will go to that , etc. etc.
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OK, so what's the speed of dark?