It actually updated that time with the merge option... i could not get back with the acp link but going in on another tab shows it updated to 3.2.3
ill check the log anyway and get back to you..
well folks i guess maybe it was a ghost in the machine... I went bottom to top of the apache2 log and other than tons of failed htaccess attempts from scans it just showed my php flag error in htacces that i didnt do right but that was after the update issues... I dont have a clue where else to look.. is there another log that would have it ?