Obviously here we don't dwell on politeness and delicacy, since the team allows itself to delete a message without warning me, or any explanation...
It should come as no surprise that some members are leaving...
Concerning my message on self-service avatars, it's not a big deal, it's just the way to do things and see things, on these good words, good wind phpbb!
from what I have seen over the years, when one of us thinks that happened it turns out we made a mistake in posting or the post got moved and we couldn't find it. I would guess that if you were to contact one of the support team via PM they could and would find out what happened to your post.