First off, i have put some effort into figuring out where i should post this, and this is the best i can do, sorry. In some ways this is on topic, some ways offtopic, sort of support, but not specifically 2 or 3.
COPPA is annoying me, and i have come up with an idea to lessen the annoyance, but i'm not certain of the legality of it (this is the primary thing i want feedback on), and it might be an idea that many other people like
user accidentally clicks the wrong age group, and ends up with email address + user name locked up
young user clicks on correct age group, complains to a admin when it appears to not be working correctly(but is technically correct) an admin then possibly decides activate the user? what if the user lies about age after telling the software the truth? vice versa? what if we delete user?
Because of the possible admin actions in Situation 2, my solution may end up resulting in a safer legal situation.
My simple solution(i'm uncertain about):
if the user picks the young age group, simply say, sorry you are too young, go away, or possibly say "some lame law is giving me problems with young people and most importantly people who click on the wrong age group, go away" (i don't allow them to register, but allow them to go back and choose a different age group)
tech: i will do a mod rewrite in a htaccess file that redirects any page with "coppa=1" in the url to my blocking page.(i'm not asking for help on this)